TBJSupport
Questions, problems or ideas: email hello@thebreakupjournal.app. We read every message. This inbox isn't monitored for emergencies.
In immediate danger, call 911.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. Free and confidential, 24/7. thehotline.org
Thinking about suicide, or worried about someone: call or text 988.
Outside the US, contact your local emergency number.
Common questions
Where is my journal stored?
On your iPhone. If you turn on iCloud sync in Settings, it's also kept in your own private iCloud so it's there on a new phone. Nobody else can read it, including us.
Can someone tell what this app is?
On the home screen it only says TBJ. You can also set a passcode or Face ID, give your space its own name, and hide individual entries so they only appear in Settings. The app hides its content in the app switcher too.
I forgot my passcode.
For your safety, there's no back door, so we can't reset it for you. If Face ID is turned on, you can still open the app with it. Otherwise, the only way back in is to delete and reinstall the app. If iCloud sync was on, your entries come back after reinstalling.
How do I get a record of what happened?
Flag the entries that matter. In Journal, open Flagged record and tap Download record. You get a dated file with each entry, the date it happened, the date you wrote it down, and any photos. You can print it or save it as a PDF to share with a lawyer, an advocate or the police. An advocate can tell you what counts as evidence where you live.
How do I delete everything?
In the app, go to Settings, then Erase my data. It can't be undone, so download your record first if you might need it.
Is TBJ therapy?
No. TBJ is a private journal and a set of self-help tools. It isn't a substitute for professional care. If things feel too heavy to hold alone, reaching out to a counselor or one of the lines above is a strong next step.